Kellie, 22, discovered a word game that gets a man's imagination running wild. He followed me to the other end of the bar to ask for my phone number. I looked straight at him, reached out, ran my fingers through his hair to mess it up and walked away. "They were all teasing the cutest one about his perfectly groomed 'do. "I was bartending, and a group of hot guys came in," she recalls. As soon as I got back to the bar, he put his hand on my thigh, and within half an hour, he was practically begging me to leave with him." Leslie, 27, found another understated way to bring a guy to his knees. "I turned to look at him when I got all the way across the room, and he was still staring at me. "I got up to go to the bathroom and, sort of on impulse, brushed my breasts against his back as I squeezed past him." Nobody else saw her sexy gesture, but he definitely felt it, she says. "I was at a crowded bar with my boyfriend," says Gina, 28. Copping an unexpected feel often works best when you're out in public. "Even touching his foot with yours in an elevator creates a huge physical response because it seems out of the ordinary - like you can't resist touching him right then and there," explains Marc Salem, Ph.D., an expert on nonverbal communication at Marymount Manhattan College. "Unnecessary touches are often a turn-on because they can signal a willingness to venture beyond the safe boundaries we usually maintain between ourselves and others," says Dennis Sugrue, PhD, clinical psychologist and president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. But even he might be surprised by the power of equally deliberate but much more subtle strokes.
You might think that a guy is always dying for you to make a blatant grab for his package. I know it makes him want to get his hands on me." "When I know a guy is looking at me but thinks he's doing it inconspicuously, I stretch one arm above my head so my shirt lifts up and 'absentmindedly' rub my other hand across my belly. My date told me later that it was the sexiest thing he'd ever seen!" Kayla, 26, has a tummy trick she likes to play. So at dinner, I slid my leg out beside the table, bent down, unzipped the boot halfway, and slowly smoothed the sock back up my leg. "I wore these great new above-the-knee boots on a date, but one of my socks had slipped down inside. Renetta,* 28, learned this one night by accident. So while you might think he'd only respond to a full-on, X-rated self-stroke, the truth is that you can quadruple his pulse rate with gestures you won't get arrested for making in public. "When you touch yourself, a guy subconsciously reads it as a cue that you want him to touch you too," explains Patti Britton, PhD, president of the Foundation for Scientific Study of Sexuality. Just running your fingers along your collarbone or slowly straightening your dress over your hips instantly draws his attention to your body. Here are some teensy turn-him-on actions to add to your seduction arsenal. "Subtle things - ones that are just enough to get his imagination going - are often what arouse men the most." Whether it's a mildly suggestive phrase or an "accidental" touch that literally gets a rise out of him, teasing and torturing a man can have a massive impact. "Overt turn-on attempts sometimes just spook a guy - he may sense heavy pressure to perform or feel out of control of the situation," says Robert Francoeur, PhD, professor of psychology and biology at Fairleigh Dickinson University. What does it take to make a guy ache for you so badly that it hurts? Surprisingly, not a whole lot.
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